Smiling in your face….. Setting you up for the fall

Hi All and welcome back to Nikki’s corner. I know I have written in awhile but I am trying to rectify this. The title of this blog comes from working at my new job. See I have a co-worker who before I got there began to make his own executive decisions and since I have been there has been called on the carpet a few times. So now that I am new and one of my co-workers is new, he is proceeding to talk about us to other people about what we do or don’t do work wise. This is your perennial backstabber. Please understand. I am new to my job and though I am new, I am not stupid. There are things about my job I still do not understand. I do not do anything without consulting my boss and because of ced co-workers mistakes, the whole dept is feeling the heat. Yes I interact with my co-workers because human beings are social creatures. Sometimes do we talk too much? Sure but don’t let that fool you. I do work everyday and once I get the flow and hang of my job, lots of things will change. I told my boss I am a human sponge so do not worry about me not being able to learn. I want to be able to my job as well as my other co-workers in case they get sick or are on vacation. Makes sense right? When I first got to my job, MR BIG Mouth co-worker did not really speak to me but as of late he has. Reason? to find my weakness. My weakness? interaction. Can I control my talking hell ya? There are times in the cube where you can hear a pin drop meanwhile in the cubes around us, it seems people do not have too much to do. Do I trust this co-worker? of course not. He played his hand a lil too early and he facade is out there for the world to see. Will i protect my ass? You damn right I will. I like my new job and I plan on growing with this place. I dont play dirty. I play fair. So what do when you have a backstabber in your space?  Filter what you want them to know and continue your behavior as you usually do. If you are friendly, stay that way. If you have been a recluse stay that way. The point is not let them see you coming.

That’s it for now.

Smooches,

Nikki

Tonight’s Topic- ” Why are people sometimes so F&^king STOOPID”"

Hi All. Welcome back to Nikki’s corner. I know I haven’t written in awhile but I have been busy. Unfortunately the past 2 days I have had to deal with people’s stupidity. I know I spelled stupid wrong in the title but believe that was purpose work. Sometimes, I do feel people are just that dumb.  I have had to deal with attitudes, Divos, and illiterate MOFO’s.  It just really annoys me that people can be so ignorant , indecisive and down right disrespectful.

This Blog is not teach a lesson. Its just to rant

 

Smooches,

Nikki

Tonight’s Topic: Why are you so melancholy?

Hi all and welcome back to Nikki’s corner. Tonight’s topic comes from the mood I am currently in. I do not know how exactly to feel at this moment. I have so many swirling emotions that I cant really describe.  One thing happened to me today that caused me to lose faith in people who are only deemed adults only because of their age. It makes me wonder why some people don’t value people’s time and why people have  become so inconsiderate.  I guess being raised in a different time and the values instilled in me . I just get really aggravated. Also then the fact I havent really talked to my husband  really today  has left me in a sad state. This is the main reason for me being melancholy. Because I am still angry and hurt about people being inconsiderate ans sad because I have not heard my husband’s voice.

I will get over this. All those people did today was reinforce my lack of trust in people.

Smooches,

Nikki

Today’s Topic: Are you a Tommy?(Those who watch Martin will know what I’m talking about) :)

Hi All and welcome to Nikki’s corner. Today’s topic just actually popped into my head this morning and I think it would be fun to talk about.

Sometimes in our lives we have friends but we don’t have a f*&king clue what the hell they do for a living.  Now I am not saying you need to be all up in your friends business, but usually a title or a brief explanation of their job will suffice. But what do you do when you don’t have any idea?

I will tell you the thought does pass through my mind at a any given time because it makes you wonder what they do with their day. Are they drug dealer , Hit man , or work for the CIA? I mean usually in those lines of work they really can’t tell you too much but that’s kinda understandable. But when you know your friend isn’t involved in any of those things, why then the big secret? 

I do realize there are people we know that like to use others to get ahead, but not to tell any of your friends. I mean geez. Probably means they can’t really trust anyone which is sad and unfortunate.  After a while, people of course wont care cause that’s how humans are. Our attention spans have become increasingly short.

If any of you have a “tommy” in your life,  Just deal. They wont ever fully admit and if it doesn’t truly affect you, you wont really care.

 

That’s it for now.

 

Smooches,

Nikki

Today’s Topic: Why Stalking and Harassing someone you were involved with is such not a good idea

Hi All and welcome to Nikki’s Corner. Today’s topic comes from a discussion I had with my mom yesterday about another blog I read.  Please understand this is really not a joke. I have read and heard terrible stories about people losing their lives because people can’t get over people breaking up with them.

First, yes being broken up with sucks. There is no way to sugar coat and I really would not want to. It can be a really bad time in which your emotions are swirling around and you are confused. Cry your eyes out. Beat up your pillow and rip up all the pictures or delete(hey this is the internet/computer age) and take a long bath or a long shower.

Second, thoughts of revenge and reprecussions will float up to the top. Let the thoughts bubble then let them pop. The best revenge is living well and loving yourself. There are entirely too many people on this planet so there is more than one soulmate. Also realize, we do not come into this world with anyone but ourselves and this is how we leave it. The reason people leave our lives can vary but they fact is, they were supposed to go.

What does stalking or harassing your ex get you? Let’s think about the law shall we. One, order of protection. Do you really want to have something like that on your record? Let’s think people. we all gotta work and they do on applications if you committed a crime and since they can delve into anything, you know something like that can make you look a lil off. Two, why run up your phone bill and text msging bill. Now before someone says, well its included in my mins and phone plan, why exactly would you waste time on bothering someone who doesn’t want you anymore? No matter what you think, it will make you look crazy and will only affirm their decision to leave your psycho ass.

Do yourselves a favor. Take their numbers out your phone. Take them off all your buddy lists whether IM’s, Myspace, facebook, HI5, linked in etc. Out of sight out of mind. Remember, you have things going on for you that possibly the other person did not appreciate. Also, if you notice a trend that you are always getting dumped, it is time for s self- assessment.  I know we don’t like taking that ” inner” journey but sometimes it needs to be done.  Also, try your best not to worry about what they are doing because they are certainly not worrying about your ass.

 

That’s it for now.

Smooches,

Nikki

Today’s Topic: It’s Spring Again

Hi All and welcome back to Nikki’s corner. Today’s topic comes from the fact that the weather in NYC has finally turned to spring even though it is still kinda cold. But we all no what happens when the weather gets warmer. Birds chirping, babies being born and people shedding off their clothes. The last one is what I have a problem with. Now please, just cause it a lil warmer does not mean retire you entire winter wardrobe. As we have felt and seen, winter loves to linger for whatever reason. It seems the first warm day, people break out the flipflops, birkenstocks, shorts, tee-shirts, tank tops, flowery dresses and almost near summer gear.

Give me a break. Please try and not give your self bronchitis or worse pneumonia. Why do people feel the need to strip right away? Personally, I am a complete fall and winter babay. Love my sweaters and heavy things. Spring and summer are not great times cause having a 9-5, you really never know what to wear and some corporate dress codes might as well be written in Pig latin for what is ok to wear and what is not.

The other reason why this “stripping” bothers me is , why are people are not wearing their size? Why are buttons pulling and denim crying for dear life cause we as a nation have gotten chunky. Please tell me why girls who are relatively thin have “Muffin top”. I mean young people should not have muffin top. Nobody should have muffin top if they wear their right size. How comfortable can you be with waists and buttons and zippers pushing into your stomach?

If you lovely people would think not only about how you look but how you might look to other people, you may want to dress”properly”

That’s it for now

 

Smooches,

Nikki

 

Today’s Topic: Can I Vote today?!?!??! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HI All and welcome back to Nikki’s Corner. This topic comes from basically being bombarded by the media about this election. I for one am extremely tired of reading about Hillary and Barack and McCain. Jesus- tapping dancing Christ, I’m waiting for November. Can’t we just vote today cause this shit is getting ridiculous. I don’t like talking politics because people get all heated and antsy when you don’t go their way.

Oh please. Opinions are like assholes and everybody has one . Here is mine

Let the people vote for  who they want. The media got you believing that everybody wants Obama, Everybody hates Hillary and no don’t really give a damn what McCain is doing.

I am a Jaded realist so the whole change speech doesn’t do a thing for me. Look beyond race. Umm yea right. One of my friends sent an article yesterday talking about white people view Obama and some staunch Die hard Caucasian voters would be proud to call him president. So what? My whole opinion is about that is who cares? Minorities have always needed the support from someone else and vice versa.  What struck me most is that republicans are defecting from their own party. Now that definitely says something. I mean we have all gotten fed up with things but this is the first time I am hearing republicans doing that.

When I think republicans, I think of rich people who could give 2 shits about anybody who are not like them. But to vote democrat..good grief.  Then the media drudging up the old ish about the Clinton legacy in the white house. Until someone can tell me that other presidents did not some shiesty and underhanded things in that house, leave the BS where it is. The past. I personally like Hillary because during the times the Clinton’s were in office, people made money and we weren’t sitting in a recession like we are now. So all you out there ready to pin her down about her husband morale values, this country lost its morale value long before Bill stepped into office and until parents and educators starts training their kids properly, don’t expect that to change.

 I have no love for Mr. Barack Obama.  I know this country is on this whole bandwagon but I ain’t buying it.  There is always something wrong or some bad thing that politicians do. Mr Obama is coming off too much like a Teflon don. His pastor’says terrible things, but he stands by his pastor and the media doesn’t make a huge circus out of it. Geraldine Ferraro makes a comment and then the whole world spins out of control. Let’s get real people. Race has an always will be a huge factor. Sorry. Once you accept it , your life will be better.

I am African American and Mrs. Obama would have me believe I should vote for her husband. Why? Cause he is black. Try again lady and would someone please put a muzzle on her? Jesus Christ. How do you expect to handle any interactions when you speak before you think? I wish people could just vote now between the 3 and let it be done.

This election is one of the most annoying in a LONG LONG TIME.

That’s it for now

Smooches,

Nikki

Today’s topic: “Why can’t you understand this is important right now?”

Hi All and Welcome back to Nikki’s corner. I know I haven’t been around for a few days.  I needed to re-charge( thanks hunny

Today’s topic comes from one of my Avid readers, Flower Diva. Thanks girly

It involves a situation in which a young lady is working on her masters and she has not really had the time to be intimate with her husband. He is wanting to be intimate again but since it is crunch time for her, she really does not have the time  which is understandable because when you reach that your point in schooling, pulling info and such can wear someone out. Now instead of being a caring husband, he decides to message her telling her he can’t wait for her to be done to be intimate and proceeds to be out for hours. When I first read this, my initial thought, he is a dead man because if my hunny doesn’t understand that this is important to me, he might as well go. But honestly she does not have the time to deal with it. Now before you bleeding hearts talk stuff about she can make time and all that, remember what it is like to be on a deadline for anything. You nerves are shot and everything that isn’t about what you are working on gets on your nerves. It is only 3 weeks dude. if she said 3 months or 3 yrs, i would say counseling is long over due. But three weeks. S*&T! Women can sometimes go years with out doing the deed. Ever heard of toys? Fleshlight for example www.fleshlight.com. 18+ people so be wary. Use your hand dude and watch Pornos. There is nothing wrong with watching pornos to help. Also once you bust your nut, why dont you run a nice bath for your wife and offer to cook and massage her. Believe, even if she is busy hearing those things shows you actually care for her and if she is a good woman , once this deadline is done, you will probably be reciprocated plenty of times till you are exhausted.  Why is that people never want to sacrifice their needs at least once and awhile? I’m not talking about you doing it all the time cause then relationship is wrecked, but why is it when we know something is important to someone, we try and cause issues instead of helping? Being spiteful is not helping. It is what is says SPITEFUL. Since you ain’t paying me no mind, I’ll find someone who will. Let me tell you something, you knew the job was dangerous when you took it. Don’t play these mind games because in the end, you will lose.

So to my soon to have her Master’s diva, rock on and I wish you great luck with your thesis. 

To her Trif Husband, May God protect in your time of need

 That’s it for now.

Smooches,

Nikki

Today’s Topic: Are you trifling?

Hi All and welcome back to Nikki’s corner. Today’s topic came to me as I got up this morning. I really don’t know why but here goes.  Thank you to Dictionary.com for this meaning

Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1)

tri·fling      

–adjective

1.	of very little importance; trivial; insignificant: a trifling matter.

2.	of small value, cost, or amount: a trifling sum.

3.	frivolous; shallow; light: trifling conversation.

4.	mean; worthless.

–noun

5.	idle or frivolous conduct, talk, etc.

6.	foolish delay or waste of time.

As you can read, being trifling is not really a great thing to be. People will call other people trifling when you do stupid ish. I mean really. When some has had enough of the crap that you spewing or doing, they will call you trifling. This is basically telling you that you and your opinion have little or no value. Now before some of y’all get angry, we all can get call trife( a word I love) or trifling at any times in our lives because we as humans do stupid things. That is just nature. Every once and while being called trifling, not so bad cause you probably know deep in your heart you were being trifling. It is becomes a problem when you get called that all the time.  That is the time when you really need to analyze yourself. To be a person of no value is very hurtful and no one in their right mind should want to be trifling.

Some things I think are trifling( though the shows I watch them like a fool, I will admit)

Rock of Love- Dude looking for a lays by various women.. yea yea yea

Flavor of love- Gimme a break flav ain’t you got enough kids

America’s next top model- melodrama at its finest.

Overly dramatic people- nuff said

Paris Hilton- To do those that love her, more power to you

Lynn Spears- Trifling mother skills

That’s it for now

Smooches,

Nikki

Today’s topic: Are you Backed up? heheheheh

Hi All and welcome back to Nikki’s corner.  Today’s Topic comes from one of my faithful readers, fitness bunny. Thank you.

Now this topic is about the digestive system so if it gets a lil graphic for ya, you can’t say I didn’t warn ya.  Now I know we humans at any given time do have issues with our digestion and it can happen for various reasons, Stress, eating too much beef, not drinking enough water, not eating your greens can cause you to get “backed up.” There are various cures, drinking coffee, laxatives, eating things that will purposely”loosen you” up. But have you ever noticed that when you are backed up, you get very irritable and you just feel blah. It is amazing how much that can affect your overall well being and it sucks. I will tell you there was a time when I was so angry with someone that I took the biggest ^*&( of my life and felt so much better afterwards. It was almost like just getting rid of the problem. hehhehehe . Believe not only did I not feel 10 lbs lighter but I felt better overall.  Sometimes we just need to S&^t out our problems. Now I know some of you are probably laughing and are like I cant believe she is talking about this. Yes it is a natural flow of things that the body does, but just wait till you backed up and see how different you feel when you finally “let it out”.

That’s it for now,

Smooches,

Nikki:)