Today’s topic: “Why can’t you understand this is important right now?”
Hi All and Welcome back to Nikki’s corner. I know I haven’t been around for a few days. I needed to re-charge( thanks hunny 
Today’s topic comes from one of my Avid readers, Flower Diva. Thanks girly 
It involves a situation in which a young lady is working on her masters and she has not really had the time to be intimate with her husband. He is wanting to be intimate again but since it is crunch time for her, she really does not have the time which is understandable because when you reach that your point in schooling, pulling info and such can wear someone out. Now instead of being a caring husband, he decides to message her telling her he can’t wait for her to be done to be intimate and proceeds to be out for hours. When I first read this, my initial thought, he is a dead man because if my hunny doesn’t understand that this is important to me, he might as well go. But honestly she does not have the time to deal with it. Now before you bleeding hearts talk stuff about she can make time and all that, remember what it is like to be on a deadline for anything. You nerves are shot and everything that isn’t about what you are working on gets on your nerves. It is only 3 weeks dude. if she said 3 months or 3 yrs, i would say counseling is long over due. But three weeks. S*&T! Women can sometimes go years with out doing the deed. Ever heard of toys? Fleshlight for example www.fleshlight.com. 18+ people so be wary. Use your hand dude and watch Pornos. There is nothing wrong with watching pornos to help. Also once you bust your nut, why dont you run a nice bath for your wife and offer to cook and massage her. Believe, even if she is busy hearing those things shows you actually care for her and if she is a good woman , once this deadline is done, you will probably be reciprocated plenty of times till you are exhausted. Why is that people never want to sacrifice their needs at least once and awhile? I’m not talking about you doing it all the time cause then relationship is wrecked, but why is it when we know something is important to someone, we try and cause issues instead of helping? Being spiteful is not helping. It is what is says SPITEFUL. Since you ain’t paying me no mind, I’ll find someone who will. Let me tell you something, you knew the job was dangerous when you took it. Don’t play these mind games because in the end, you will lose.
So to my soon to have her Master’s diva, rock on and I wish you great luck with your thesis.
To her Trif Husband, May God protect in your time of need
That’s it for now.
Smooches,
Nikki
Let’s not look @ this one sided… granted it’s only 3 weeks but how was the turn down? Was it insensitive? Could she have been rude about how she went about saying no? I for one believe if a woman says no that’s that. (But there are those rare occasions when no means I want you to take me like the Mandingo I know you are.
) And I completely agree with trying to help reduce her stress n make her hectic time easier. But lets just hope this isn’t a case of misunderstanding and the guy just misses his love. I know I miss mine. Hope this sheds a slightly different perspective. 